Surrender

LEARN TO SURRENDER; IT WILL HELP YOU GROW
Surrender does not mean giving up or giving in. Surrender means accepting what is present and available in your life right now. If you want to grow as person, you must learn to accept what your life is and what it isn't, so you can continue to move forward. This process of surrender can propel us into new directions and make room for greater depth in our lives. It allows us to let go of false beliefs and give up our defensiveness in exchange for the freedom of being ourselves. Learning to accept ourselves and those we love for who they are rather than who we want them to be benefits everyone. As we let go of our expectations, it becomes easier to achieve what it is we truly desire. Only through releasing what isn't working for us can we begin to know what we truly need. It is through surrender that we can emerge victorious in our struggle for understanding and acceptance. We do not have to know exactly what it is that we want from life. Instead, we need to learn to trust that what's right for us will make itself known and available. Slowly, we will begin to understand the reason for this path, which is to grow. Over time, the lessons we must learn, along with the knowledge of what it is we truly want and need, will become clear.We can win the battle of understanding ourselves. The tactics lie within each of us. This is where a little self-introspection can help us develop a reasonable attitude about life, set attainable goals and keep the relationships we desire. We cannot win by fighting with each other or ourselves. One way to make it all work out is through surrender. People who surrender in their lives and relationships are more likely to feel joy from them. It's not an easy process but, given time, you will find that it can actually make your life a more balanced and safer place to be. To get this process started, look at an area where there is a power struggle and ask yourself, "If the struggle were over, what would I be left with?" You will also need to talk with the other person involved to find out what it is he or she really wants. Most of the time, we all just want to get along.Another tip: Just imagine how much easier your life would be if you used surrender to your advantage. You can actually pretend you have done it and examine how you would feel. Most people experience a moment of relief, and this is a sign that you would be better off if you surrendered. Remember that you are not giving up your own power. You are actually enhancing your humanness by creating a space to bring in more love, growth and creativity. Surrender will not weaken or trap you; it will heal you and set you free.BARTON GOLDSMITH