I watched When a Man Loves a Woman last night with my husband. We didn't talk about it afterwards. It just felt too awkward, but it hit so close to home. I met my husband in a bar. I always say he got me under false pretenses. I am gratefull he has stuck by me through these years. I'm not sure if it was love that has kept us together or inertia and it scares me as I anticipate what I may conjure up in my recovery. I can' help but think there was someting in it for him for me to be drunk all the time. But before I continue with all these swirling thoughts the main thing I must do is stay in the day. Rome and a sober life for Kathy were not built in a day.
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HEy Kathy: THoughts come and thoughts go. Just remember that because you think it, doesn't make it real. The way I see it in sobriety (and marriage and work and life in general), every day I let be a good day is a good day.
Yep. Right on.
Of course there will be a little unsettled ? stuff while things re jig themselves. But just you wait and see. You may come to understand him as a spiritual giant in his own right.
I wasn't crazy about that film because it was to morally superior about the alcoholics. It made them the 'good guys', and the others the 'bad guys'. I think that is spiritual arrogance.
I can't remember how the film ends to be honest, but I think ? It made the non alcoholic quite a weak character. Cant remember. Oh well.
But I have met some very impressive non alcoholics who never read a 'spiritual book', so I don't think the film did that type of person justice really. Whatever. What do you expect from a meg Ryan film? Exactly! Don't worry. It will all sort itself out in the wash. Just you wait and see..
watch the lunar eclipse tues morning if you get the chance, and the clouds stay out the DANG way! See ya!
I feel the same way. Me and my boyfriend were party animals together and I thought he enjoyed me when I was drunk or f-ed up. I thought it might change our relationship now that I am sober. He stopped doing drugs when I was pregnant and is now sober cuz he's in jail- easy to not drink in the slammer!! But when I think back, I sucked when I was hungover, I feel better sober and he will see such a better side of me. You're doing great.
i have the same fears... we used to party once a week, our date... if you can call going out and getting drunk a date... yip! i think we need to stay in the day and not worry about it too much!
Hi Kathy: My becoming sober has totally change my relationship with the hubby - but in MOSTLY good ways. I sometimes think "I can't believe he's put up with my crazy as* all these years".. but then I REALLY think about it and you know what?? He crazy too! lol
Your husband I suspect "gets" you in ways no one else would and that, my friend, is a wonderful thing!!
All this talk of couples, I aint been in a relationship with a lady for more than ten years but I suppose for 7 of them I wasnt even on this planet.
Its only in the last year or so I started thinking how nice it would be to get back with a life companion.
I might try a dating site again this winter, but I still gotta remember its Gods time not mine...
Yes I recorded my share of the AA meeting, you will see the link on my blog and you will no doubt hear my friend JMD's non stop interuptions.
I hope this aint breaking the anonyminity tradition?
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