Annonymous

Anonymous said...
It's one thing to expose yourself on a blog, but to talk about someone else, the "sick and suffereing alcoholic" you discuss here, and what happened at an AA meeting and take her inventory and put her down, as if you, who was given an unmerited gift, is somehow now a notch above her now, is just not right. It is gossip. She has as much right as anyone to go to an AA meeting and feel safe, not to be exposed on a public board and as much as you believe it is private, it is not. It happens too often in the rooms of AA now also, people telling other people's stories who aren't even sitting in the room, and now here on the internet for all to see. If she ever gets sober, let her tell her own story herself. Talk to your sponsor in private if you need to discuss someone.

This is a comment someone made just recently to a post I had last month about a 12th step experience I had which by the way did not occur IN a meeting but outside the meeting. Kind of felt like a punch in the gut. I think that very well have been the intent. In rereading my post and in the reality of the experience, I in no way felt I was "taking her inventory" or "putting her down" or in any way feel a "notch above her". I have no illusions that I am exactly like her. And not only that she is my friend and I care very much for her. I am invested in her recovery as I am invested in mine. Her story is part of my story and that's why I wrote about it. It was something that had affected me deeply. We are getting sober together. But the point is well taken that this blog is a public forum not my private journal. I have thought of my blog as my journal and have been warned to be careful of my boundries. I think that's part of why I haven't been blogging so much lately. Not exactly sure where those boundries are.

Anyway, I think the comment may be more of a reflection on "annonymous" than anything else. And I may stop allowing annonymous comments. Not that I get many. I just don't like the feeling of not being able to respond directly and not knowing where its coming from. Not nice and nice matters. I'm all for being right sized but there is a way to do it. This comment just reminded me of those negative folks who sit around in meetings and talk about the newcomers like they are pigeons who shit all over them. But maybe I am way off base. That's why I am posting this here. I'd like to hear what you think.